Rosebuds: Single moms – how do you do it?

By: Michelle Carl, Managing Editor
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I recently got a taste of single mommyhood when my husband went on a business trip.

David was gone starting Monday and returned Thursday after work — and those four days felt like the longest ever.

For starters, the logistics of getting Wesley to and from child care were complicated.

David dropped Wesley off in West Sacramento on Monday, where a nanny watches him and his cousin, Noah. Then David headed down to Visalia for work.

But Wesley also had his six-month check-up that day, which meant Wesley’s nanny had to take the carseat from David and bring Wesley back to Roseville. But you can’t leave Noah alone, so Grandma had to come get him and take him to her house. But then we had to get the carseat back out to West Sac so David could pick up Wesley on his way home Thursday. (Sometimes transporting your kid feels like solving that riddle where you have to get the chicken, the fox and the corn across the river.)

It also threw off our two-person routine. Usually, I’ll do bathtime while David makes up a bottle and lays out Wesley’s jammies for the night. But that week, I had to think ahead and do all the prep work myself.

Towards the end of the week, I was so beat down and tired. I wasn’t eating very well (David is the chef of the house) and I had gone a day too long without washing my hair. I can see how when you have a kid and no partner, you put yourself last. You’re taking care of the kid, but no one is taking care of you.

It made me all the more appreciative of my husband and especially my mom, who raised my sister and me all by herself for many years.

Michelle Carl is the editor of the Press Tribune and Wesley’s mom. Rosebuds, a column about parenting in Roseville, appears Mondays online.