Friday Sep 18 2009
Family was at center of lives lost
By: Nathan Donato-Weinstein | email@example.com
Mom, dad called ‘loving and supportive parents’
If you’d spent 15 minutes with Edward Helms, you’d likely hear something about his boys. “He was so committed to them,” said Phillip Borup, who was Helms’s boss at Stonehurst Securities in Folsom. “To a degree, he was kind of a Mr. Mom of sorts.” Helms, 52, and wife Marilyn, 49, were killed Tuesday night when Jason Christopher Lambert entered their Roseville home and shot them to death, then turned the gun on himself, police said. They leave behind two sons, a 16-year-old and another at St. Mary’s College in the Bay Area. On Thursday, officials at the sons’ current and former schools were grappling with the stunning tragedy. At Jesuit High School, where the younger boy attended, officials said they were making crisis counselors available to students and staff throughout the week. The school also celebrated a special Mass on Wednesday, said the school’s president, Fr. Greg Bonfiglio. “What we’re finding is it’s shaking kids in a lot of ways,” said Fr. Bonfiglio, who with the school’s principal visited with the sons on Thursday. He said students were concerned about their classmate and were also “realizing that they ought not to take their families for granted.” Teachers were giving students the chance to journal, talk or pray, he said. For a time, both sons also attended St. Albans Country Day School in Roseville, where Edward Helms was a former board member. Marilyn also volunteered in the classroom, said Laura Bernauer, St. Albans’ head of school. “They were very loving and supportive parents,” Bernauer recalled. Roseville Police continued to investigate this week, and had had reportedly served search warrants at three locations. The area in front of the house on the 1600 block of Alnwick Drive reopened to traffic on Thursday, the same day autopsies were scheduled. In front of the house Friday morning, six lit candles burned below two heart-shaped balloons, two bouquets and a poster that read, Our Thoughts & Prayers Are With You.” Edward Helms was a financial advisor with decades of experience, said Dan Thomas, chief compliance officer at Stonehurst. He exemplified the best of the business: thorough and detail-oriented, but also gregarious. He bucked tradition somewhat by serving both large institutional customers and mom-and-pops, yet treating them with equal respect, Thomas said. “In one case, he was able to find a mistake that a tax preparer had done in a woman’s tax returns and saved her thousands of dollars,” Thomas said. Helms had gone through a “rough stretch” financially, Borup said. But Helms had been licensed since 1987 and had been through recessions before. He held an optimistic outlook for his clients and always believed there were opportunities to make money. “Everybody here in the office loved him,” Borup said. “He was always upbeat always.” But his biggest passion wasn’t the stock market or mutual funds. It was his family. “He was really engulfed in his boys,” Borup said.